Feeling scared or alone? You don't have to be... It's Your Choice!
Unexpected fatherhood can be frightening and overwhelming but it does not have to be a disaster. Your life does not have to come to a halt or spin out of control. We can help you with the questions that are probably racing through your mind - questions like:
- Will she let me be involved?
- Do I have any say in the choices being made?
- How can I afford to support her and a new baby?
- Is there anyone out there that I can talk to about this?
The world says that it's her choice, but most women don't want to make that choice alone. She needs your support now more than ever. Support doesn't mean silence. Share with her. Research the options together, your voice is important.
Fathering a child may be a completely new experience for you. It involves some big decisions and that is why it is important to be open and honest with your girlfriend. Share what you are feeling, even if it is uncomfortable. It is normal to feel anger, frustration and fear, but make sure she knows that you are there to support her.
Running away from your worries won't work. The more you avoid or deny the situation, the harder it becomes to make an informed and healthy decision. Pressuring her to make a decision doesn't help. Pressure will only push her away and may even push her to do something that you will both regret.
There is a better way. You do not have to face this alone. Prepare to talk with your parents and other people close to the situation. It may be awkward, but they might be more helpful than you think. Gathering information and support is the first step in taking positive action toward taking charge of your life and setting up a solid future for yourself, your partner and your child.
Both you and your girlfriend need someone to talk to. You need someone to be both honest and straight with you, someone that will give you all the facts. The situation you are now facing is life-changing for both of you. It is very important for the two of you to gather as much accurate information as possible prior to making any decision.
We can give you the facts you need to know about abortion, adoption or parenting, and help you explore the pros and cons of each option. Take the time to learn the facts, and do not let anyone pressure you or rush you. Having accurate information will help you make the best decision possible. It can also help to be made aware of things you might not have considered.
Don't wait for this to just go away because it won't! Take up the challenge, get informed, and remember, you do not have to walk this road alone.
We provide accurate information on all options; we do not provide abortion referrals.